Polyvagal States
Nervous System States
Connected and Present
Calm, open, socially engaged.
Calm, open, socially engaged.
This is your body’s regulated state. Here, you feel grounded, creative, compassionate, and socially present. The world feels safe enough to connect, learn, and love. Heart rate slows, digestion resumes, and clear thinking becomes available.
Activated and Alert
Energized, vigilant, or anxious.
Energized, vigilant, or anxious.
In this mobilized state, your body prepares to act. Attention narrows, breath quickens, and muscles engage. This state is protective in real danger, but when it lingers it can feel like tension, anxiety, irritability, or overwhelm.
Appeasing and Attuning
People-pleasing, self-suppressing, highly focused on others.
People-pleasing, self-suppressing, highly focused on others.
In this state, your nervous system seeks safety through connection. You may prioritize harmony, minimize your needs, anticipate others’ reactions, or stay agreeable to reduce threat. It often looks like kindness from the outside, while feeling tense or self-erasing on the inside.
Numb and Disconnected
Withdrawn, foggy, or shut down.
Withdrawn, foggy, or shut down.
This state emerges when overwhelm feels inescapable. Energy drops, emotions flatten, and disconnection sets in as a form of protection. Movement out of this state usually happens slowly, through warmth, safety, and gentle reconnection with sensation and presence.

